For couples looking forward to a modern,
personal wedding ceremony, what alternatives are there?
I have been married twice, the first in a civil ceremony in a court room, and the second at Oakham House at Toronto’s Ryerson University. In both cases, I was confronted with only two choices: your officiant must be a court judge or a religious official. Neither choice was acceptable to me and my fiancée.
preparation for my marriage in 1987 I suggested to the United Church
minister that I could
write my own secular ceremony, and he agreed with me. And so, I wrote my
own marriage ceremony that included readings by Shakespeare, Bob Dylan,
and John Lennon, and the minister read my script word for word.
Imagine my relief years later when
I discovered the alternative: a Humanist marriage.
By the way, my 1987 marriage to Lynn was the
most important day of my life. Our first wedding dance was the Turtles’
song, “Happy Together.” After 30 years of marriage, we are still so
happy together. Lynn is my best friend. We have two daughters Kayleigh and Janet, sisters to my children Dylan and Sheri. We live in
the Clarkson area of Mississauga, where Lynn teaches pre-school and I
operate A-Plus Tutoring as a high school math tutor.
To keep in shape I go to the gym regularly, run five-kilometer races, and play baseball every Thursday. In fact I am the organizer of Thursday Night Softball that has become a tradition at Deer Run Park for 28 years.
During Toronto’s 2016 Pride Celebrations, I enjoyed manning the Humanist booth. Same-sex marriage has been legal in Ontario since June 10, 2003. Since then Humanist officiants have solemnized thousands of same-sex marriages, a service I offer to the LGBTQ community.
My credentials are:
It is my pleasure to meet with you and your partner to plan the ideal ceremony for you, your families, friends, and guests.
Jim McDonald, BA, BEd